yes, it can.


With sex, yes it can.


Without sex, yes it can.


What really determines whether a relationship will last or not is not sex itself. It is the commitment of the two persons involved.


Clarity breeds commitment. You have to be clear you know who you are, and who you are with, then – and only then – will you be able to commit to that person.


Am I saying, “Go have sex?”


In all things, “No.”


I won’t support sex without marriage, because as known, marriage binds us as flesh, sex binds us as spirits. But it’s appropriate you get it straight: sex will not make another person committed to you. It will only blur your choice.


And if you think I’m joking, ask me what I’ve seen happen and I’ll tell you 🙂


I am Dayo Samuel,

Founder, Nigeria Podcast Network

Host, #Audacity2Lead podcast


Well, lovely comments and I must confess they seemed to have answered my question.


My view: A relationship without sex is possible. A relationship without sex can be boring only when the parties involved have no vision for their life. I have been there. There was a time in my life where I had no vision and all I thought of was romance and that was the strength of relationships in my own understanding until I had a mind shift.


We only assume it can’t work because our minds are programmed that way. We see it as a trend hence, no way out.

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What can you do to avoid sex?


  1. Be determined: Determination starts in your mind not in your mouth. When you are determined, it means you would be ready to build strategies that can make it work. Strategies are long term plans to achieve a goal.


  1. Make an agreement: Don’t enter a relationship with the thought of coercing your partner into your wish and don’t use an agreement as a condition for the relationship. I believe that during the friendship periods, some deliberate and wise questions can be asked. You can also observe your intending partner value system. (continue reading from next page below)
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  • Very educative! Personal vision, spiritual focus, clarity of the future, emotional security/intelligence, determination and self-worth are the parameters to consider before entering and during a relationship so as to avoid premarital sex.

    Many thanks, keep the good job going!

  • it”s is very very( possible to have a relationship without sex) I had a relationship for two years plus believe me no sex no romance no kissing & we spent all most three years no sex

  • My dear sis, you have greatly well by putting this piece together. Enlightening, Educative and informative. More Grace.

  • Thank you Adenike, I have gone through all the comments and everyone here seems to be on the same page.
    It really pains me how premarital sex has become a norm. One of the challenges singles face is finding someone who will respect their wish of “no sex till marriage”. many have given in to it because of pressures from their partners.
    pre marital sex is also a precursor for extra marital affairs. If a single lady/man can keep himself before marriage, there is high chances of being faithful in marriage because they have mastered the act of self control as singles.
    The media is not helping matters too. Anyway, enough of the lamenting. What do we do?
    We need to blow this trumpet louder than the media! Every girl should learn how to close her legs till marriage and every guy should zip up.
    God will help us. I am deeply pained when I see singles engaging in premarital sex.

  • You are a blessing to those who have been torn, heartbroken, written off for life by those who feel they are God. You wrote such a powerful piece. Unfortunately for me I happen to find guidance on relationship at 26years when i have made so many mistakes, dishonoured God and now hate men. Pls dont judge me. It hasnt been easy. Im christian and have been praying to God for a change, and also to direct me to christian dating coach who would potray and exemplify what real Godly relationships should be like. Please is it possible that relationship capsule operates as a whatsapp or telegram group so that females can benefit better? its just a suggestion. I see many lost females like myself who need help but dont know who to go to. I hope that many females who wana genuinely change will embrace the light with your words. God bless you.

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