Uncovering Red Flags
How to protect your heart, identify time wasters and toxic relationships. Discover uncommon signs you shouldn’t ignore if you want to have a thriving marriage.
UNCOVERING RED FLAGS
Since 2013 when I started reaching out to singles on life and relationship matters, I have had the privilege of listening to different dating experiences of theirs. A lot of them disclosed their encounters regarding red flags in their past relationships. The married folks I have also counselled confided that they knowingly entered into marriages with partners with toxic character traits. From these interactions, one conclusion is crystal clear; people are more often than not aware that their partners are exhibiting certain untoward characteristics.
Each passing time, I would feel this unshakable stir in my spirit to deconstruct 'Red Flags in Relationships,' from a purely different perspective, due to my observations from relating with single and married folks. I reckon a handful of authors have written interesting pieces on the common dimensions of red flags (which are easy to talk about), such as anger, cheating, selfishness, disrespect, etc. All the same, I feel there is more to be explored on the subject. I mean, deep insights into the true foundational issues or generational patterns behind those traits.
There are categories of red flags that a lot of individuals are blind to. It is funny how folks still argue if generational patterns reoccur or not. They cannot get past the fact that certain patterns have been modelled by their parents or guardians, and as such, stored in their minds as a way of reacting to a given situation. Certain behaviours are triggered by spiritual manipulations and generational patterns. In other cases, the void or rejection that people have suffered (in their tender years), causes them to exhibit particular negative character traits.
So many times, we have an idea of who we want but end up with people who aren't suitable for us, because of the traumatic experiences we've suffered in our tender years, such as absentee parents, rejection, insecurity, lack of funds, etc. With these factors, you see yourself permitting unhealthy character traits because of the need to prove a point, to feel safe, loved, validated, etc.
Taking this matter a notch spiritual, some people outrightly ignore the voice of the Holy Spirit when they begin to feel a form of unease in their relationships. You hear such people say, ‘I am praying but I hardly hear God speak’ or ‘I have been having dreams but don't understand them or 'I simply need to pray more about the issue,' etc.
Ultimately, through this book, I will bring a distinctive illumination of what red flags are and how they begin. The different dimensions of red flags, such as mindset, behavioural, spiritual and generational red flags. You will learn how to identify time-wasters and ways to protect yourself from falling into the trap of a potentially chaotic marriage.
At the end of this book, you will have evolved from who you are to a more informed version of yourself. You will have the astounding ability to spot red flags. You will have mastered how to discern when you feel a deep nudge that dissuades you from pursuing a relationship. Significantly, you will be able to prayerfully navigate your journey into marital bliss.
Red flags are common, but certain patterns and signs create a faulty foundation for your home.
Discover how to: detect these signs, protect your heart and make healthier marital decisions.
In this book, you will learn how to:
Elevate your identity and self-worth
Discover the different kinds of red flags that exist.
Identify and dea l with time wasters.
Create an intentional marital blueprint you need.
Set up a marital vision for yourself
How to partner with God for your marital activation and settlement
Be intentional and clear about your marital destiny
Chapters in the book includes:
THE RED FLAG SAGA.
BEHAVIORAL RED FLAGS
MINDSET RED FLAGS
GENERATIONAL RED FLAGS
SPIRITUAL RED FLAGS
IDENTIFYING AND DEALING WITH TIME WASTERS
MARITAL CHOICE CIRCLE BLUE PRINT
THE PERSON CALLED YOU.
SETTING UP A MARITAL AND RELATIONSHIP VISION
LETTING GOD LEAD YOU.
CASE STUDIES ON BEING DIVINELY LED
PRAYER CONFESSIONS AND DECREES FOR SINGLES
PRAYERS FOR A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE
PRAYER DECREES FOR OVERCOMING MARITAL DELAY