8 Things You Must Settle Before Your Wedding

Before you go to the altar you need to discuss and settle the many things with your proposed partner. Don’t say things will settle themselves in marriage, people that said so years back are now regretting it in their marriage. So discus with that Guy or Lady so that you may know what you are putting your neck into, remember, it is a life long Journey you must not step into it in a nonchalant way. Touch the following areas among others:

1: WHO TO SERVE AND HOW TO SERVE HIM:Both of you must agree how to serve God, mode of Prayer, worship, songs, church attendance etc. If an MFM Brother must marry a sister from Living Faith Church they need to talk, because their mode of prayer are different, if a C.A.C sister must marry a Christ Embassy person or Methodist brother they must talk, for their mode of worship is totally different.

2: WHAT TO DO:The kind of job you wish to do, how to do it, the problem it involves and the price anybody that will marry you must be ready to pay must be discussed.

3: NUMBER OF CHILDREN will you like to have children? If yes, how many? Talk about this.

4: WHERE TO LIVE:Where do you desire to live, city or Village? Lagos, Abuja, Washington DC or London? Whichpart of the city will you prefer, for example for those in Lagos they need to talk about where they prefer to live and why, is it Ikotun or Ikoyi, and is it Ikorodu or Lekki? Can you afford it? You need to discuss this.

5: YOUR PAST LIFE STYLES: What kind of life have you lived in the past? You better discus it, you may think he or she will not know, if it happen to be exposed later it will hurt your marriage deeply. If you have a child, tell the person you want to marry, please do not hide this.

6: YOUR VISION AND FUTURE PLANS:What is your vision? You want to win the World for the Lord as an international travelling Evangelist? Then don’t marry a lady who believes her village is the best place to be, she should marry a village guy who has a vision of becoming the counsellor of his ward.

7: YOUR STATE OF HEALTH:Do you have any ailment in your body, any hidden or periodic disease? Say it now so that the other party may know what he or she is going into.

8: YOUR PERCEPTION: Discuss how you perceive many things around you and synchronize your perception or at least understand your proposed spouse point of view and know whether you can live with that. Talk about in-laws, money, children, leadership at home, roles of men and women at home, house chores who should do what? Is it wrong for the husband to cook or wash plates, talk about joint account, siblings, tithing, giving, recreation, hobbies, telephone, internet, mentors, training, self improvement, career, food, friendship etc