How To Lead Her
With Love
Every man desires a thriving, peaceful marriage, but achieving it requires more than authority or control. Authentic leadership in a relationship is built on love that heals, restores, and inspires your wife to flourish under your care.
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Are You Struggling With Any of These in Your Marriage?
- Lack of Vision & Leadership: You don’t have a clear plan for your marriage, and your wife keeps trying to impose her leadership, leaving you feeling inadequate or unable to take charge.
- Emotional Disconnection: You often react to your wife’s emotions by withdrawing or getting defensive instead of understanding what she truly needs from you.
- Wrong Associations: You spend time with friends who don’t model healthy marriages, and their influence is pulling you away from what your marriage should be.
- Spiritual Leadership Struggles: You either don’t know how to lead spiritually, are too busy, or feel disconnected from God.
- Unresolved Father Wounds: You grew up without a strong father figure, or your mother was emotionally unavailable, making it hard for you to express love adequately.
- Addictions & Emotional Voids: You struggle with addictions, whether to substances, pornography, or work, because of deep-seated emotional gaps from childhood.
- Lack of a Marriage Model: You never saw a healthy marriage growing up, so now you’re unsure how to build one for yourself.
- Fear of Marriage Failing: You’re surrounded by men whose marriages are failing, and now you’re anxious about your own.
- Limited Role in the Home: You provide financially but struggle to contribute emotionally or spiritually to your marriage.
- Feeling Disrespected: Your wife doesn’t respect you enough, causing tension in your home.
- Struggles with Boundaries: You can’t seem to set healthy boundaries with your family, in-laws, exes, or even friends.
- Sex Without Intimacy: You give sex, but not a real emotional connection, leaving your wife feeling distant.
- Traditional vs. Modern Expectations: You define yourself as a “traditional man” and struggle with modern expectations of affection, communication, and accountability in marriage.
- Lack of Accountability: You resist being accountable to your wife because you believe a man shouldn’t have to explain himself.
- Family Foundations: You come from a lineage of polygamy, divorce, separation, or broken homes, and you’re wondering if you’re destined to repeat the cycle.
If any of these sound familiar, How to Lead Her with Love is exactly what you need.
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Ocholi Okutepa
When God raises a woman to speak to the critical subject of the leadership of the man, you know that heaven is not about to take the issue lightly! I highly recommend this book as it captures the essence of the subject in a profound and simple style. The chapterisation and approach to the subject take the reader from step to step with clarity and depth. Every man should have a copy and gift copies to other men. Every woman should be a distributor. If we, as men, are better, the world is better!
It takes boldness, depth, and divine conviction for a woman to write to men about leadership in marriage and Nike Folagbade has done it with remarkable grace and authority. How to Lead Her with Love is not just timely; it is prophetic. In a world where many shy away from addressing the gaps in manhood and headship, Nike steps in with truth, compassion, and Spirit-led insight. I deeply appreciate her courage in taking on such a sacred and often sensitive subject. This book is a gift to every man who desires to lead well, love deeply, and build a lasting legacy. Thank you, Nike!
By Pastor Kola Shawana
Uncle Allison Hyacintho
"How To Lead Her With Love" by Nike Folagbade is a fascinating book that explains how men can transform into the New Generation tribe of men who are completely committed to their role as husbands and fathers, as assigned by God to lead their homes. I got stuck on the light in the second chapter detailing how a man can lead a lady by first being able to lead himself. I strongly advise you to get your hands on this book, read it, and let it do its magic. You've written a great book Coach, I read through it with so much satisfaction as a man, because your thoughts are exactly what our men need to hear.
What This Book Will Do for You as a Man
This book will transform your mindset, equip you with practical leadership strategies, and guide you in becoming a strong, loving, and spiritually grounded husband. By reading How to Lead Our Love, you will:
Understand the Leadership Gap
Learn why so many men struggle with leading in their marriage and how to step into your rightful role confidently.
Master Self-Leadership
Develop emotional, mental, and spiritual strength to lead with wisdom and stability.
Step into Your Priesthood
Learn how to be the spiritual covering for your wife and family, regardless of where you are in your faith journey.
Lead with Vision
Create a clear vision for your marriage and home, and set a direction that brings unity instead of conflict.
Wash Her with the Word
Learn how to lead your wife spiritually in a way that strengthens both of you.
Live in God’s Favor
Walk in the divine blessing of leading your marriage the right way.
Heal from the Past
Identify and repair the foundational issues affecting your ability to love and lead well.
Balance Work, Career & Marriage
Discover how to be fully present for your family while still pursuing your ambitions.
Develop True Intimacy
Move beyond physical connection to a deeper emotional and spiritual bond.
Understand How Women Think & Communicate
Learn how to meet your wife’s deepest needs without feeling like losing yourself.
Rebuild Your Marriage from Infidelity & Pain
If your marriage has suffered betrayal, unforgiveness, or deep wounds, this book will guide you through the process of repair.
It’s Time to Take Responsibility for Your Marriage
Your wife doesn’t want to take over leadership; she wants you to step into it. And when you do, everything changes.
You don’t have to figure this out alone. How to Lead Her With Love will show you the path to becoming the man, husband, and leader God designed you to be.
Order your copy today and take the first step toward leading with love, purpose, and strength.
Why This Book is a Must-Read for Every Man:
1. Understand Her Deepest Needs
Many women struggle with defensiveness, suppression, or feeling unloved, which is often shaped by past experiences, societal narratives, or upbringing. This book will teach you how to break those walls with love, patience, and understanding.
2. Lead from a Place of Rest
Discover the power of leading your home without control or intimidation. Using the analogy of Jesus calming the storm, you’ll learn how to lead with authority rooted in peace, not dominance.
3. Move Beyond Rulership to Leadership
The Bible’s mandate for husbands is clear: “Love her as Christ loved the church.” This book unpacks what that means in everyday life: selflessness, sacrifice, and service, which transform your marriage into a thriving partnership.
4. Master the Core Areas Women Desire from Men
Gain insight into the areas where your leadership matters most—emotional, spiritual, financial, and more. Learn how to meet her needs in ways that deepen her trust and love for you.
5. Learn Practical Love Gestures That Matter
Sometimes, it’s the little things that count. From thoughtful gestures to intentional communication, this book equips you with actionable steps to make her feel truly cherished.
6. Break Free from Generational Patterns
Explore topics like “Like Father, Like Son” and “Healing from Childhood Trauma” to uncover how your past might influence your present and how to break free from cycles that hinder your growth.
7. Reframe Your Manhood
Redefine what it means to be a man in today’s world. Move away from societal pressures and embrace a Biblical, Spirit-led vision of manhood that builds you into the leader God designed you to be.
8. Lead Her Spiritually and Emotionally
Learn how to guide your wife not just in life but also in her walk with God. With chapters like “Working with the Lord” and “Leading Her in Love,” this book equips you to create a home where love, faith, and peace reign.
Pre-Order Now and Start the Journey to a Thriving Marriage!
How to Lead Her with Love is more than a book; it’s a manual for men who want to experience transformation in their marriages and lead their homes with wisdom, love, and grace.
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