Anger is a series of emotions, progressively moving from one unpleasant emotion to another. Anger can be a mixture of stress, failed expectations, disappointment, anxiety, and worry. Anger can be positive and can also be negative.
People can use anger to cause a positive movement in society. If you want a change in society, you can become angry at the level of poor education, poor way of living and choose to create a change through your contributions to the world.
However, there is another level of anger that destroys, causes chaos, and confusion in the life of the person who is struggling with it and those that are around them.
Some people have a mild temper while some have a high temper. The Bible says that we can get angry but not sin. And that we should not allow the day to go by without resolving the cause of our anger. Eph 4:26.
In your marriage, you might find out that you\’re always getting angry with your spouse. You\’re quick to get offended. You always get irritated by things. But the truth is, you cannot afford to always get angry with the same person that God has called you to be one with. It is like getting angry with yourself, being mad at yourself.
Rather, you should allow God to work in you, give you the fruit of the Spirit so that you can have self-control and gentleness and long-suffering; and also be able to handle the things that happen in your marriage without necessarily getting so angry with your spouse.
This is because anger can lead to violence or doing things that you\’re not supposed to do. It can cause you to become abusive, emotionally, verbally, or physically. It can become the door the enemy uses to releases curses and negativity into your marriage when you are triggered.
So anger is one of those weaknesses that you\’d want to work on so that it doesn\’t consume your marriage.
Here are fourteen scriptures in dealing with anger.
- Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Neither gives place to the devil.
Ephesians 4:26 – 27 KJV
2. Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
James 1:19 – 20 KJV
3. A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, But he who is slow to anger and patient calms disputes.
Proverbs 15:18 AMP
4. But now rid yourselves [completely] of all these things: anger, rage, malice, slander, and obscene (abusive, filthy, vulgar) language from your mouth.
Colossians 3:8 AMP
5. Lay aside bitter words, temper tantrums, revenge, profanity, and insults.
But instead, be kind and affectionate toward one another. Has God graciously forgiven you? Then graciously forgive one another in the depths of Christ’s love.
Ephesians 4:31 – 32 TPT
6. A wise person demonstrates patience, for mercy means holding your tongue. When you are insulted, be quick to forgive and forget it, for you are virtuous when you overlook an offense.
Proverbs 19:11 TPT
7. But I promise you if you are angry with someone, you will have to stand trial. If you call someone a fool, you will be taken to court. And if you say that someone is worthless, you will be in danger of the fires of hell.
Matthew 5:22 CEV
8. Don\’t be angry or furious. Anger can lead to sin.
Psalms 37:8 CEV
9. He who is slow to anger has great understanding [and profits from his self-control], But he who is quick-tempered exposes and exalts his foolishness [for all to see].
Proverbs 14:29 AMP
10. A [shortsighted] fool always loses his temper and displays his anger, But a wise man [uses self-control and] holds it back.
Proverbs 29:11 AMP
11. He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; And he that ruleth his spirit, than he that taketh a city.
Proverbs 16:32 ASV
12. A wrathful man stirreth up contention, But he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.
Proverbs 15:18 ASV
13. If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for God’s wrath [and His judicial righteousness]; for it is written [in Scripture], “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.
Romans 12:18 – 19 AMP
14. For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favor is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.
Psalms 30:5 KJV
How do you feel now?
Just pick one or two scriptures per day. Meditate on them and ask God to empower you to live above anger. As you study, pay attention to how God shows you patterns and background causes of your current struggle.