How I Got My First Proposal At 34


Hmmmmn, what a world we live in. This woman here has gone through a past she wish she could change. She seems to have taken religious too deep in her heads. She has refused to mention her church but has some things to teach ladies out there who might still be in that bracket:
Am Nyang Nneoma, 36, Married with a son.
I started my life as a young believer and was very devoted too. Though, I think I allowed it affect my appearance.
While growing in my church, they taught us to dress well covered which is a good thing but I and my friends took ours to the extreme.
We would wear ankara often to school in our university days, and even when its english wears, we would be entirely covered. We paid no attention to our hair as long as it was neatly combed, we added nothing to it not even relaxer. My face was always oily and rough, we hardly used the white powder also, we just went very natural.
In my university days, I moved from my house to the class, then to the market or church. I never visited friends. I was always indoors studying the bible and praying. I didnt really have friends except for some of my church members in my school too. People referred me and my friends as (S.U) as it popularly called in African mentality. I didnt mind them as long as I was pleasing God.
Days, weeks, months and years passed by and I got no proposal from a man. When I was in my early teens and twenties, I didnt see any reason to be approached by a man, I saw it as a sin and I never bothered when no one came. At the age of 23,24,25 some of my beautiful friends started getting married. I kept wondering, was I not fine too? Though no one in my family or outside have told me I was beautiful but I was and it was hidden.
Am sharing this story not to discourage you from being religious or the likes but lets put a caution on how we take care of ourselves. You don\’t need to put on the longest skirt and the freeist blouse on earth to be a christain. I wore a lot of Bulukus as some Nigerians called it. I wore native mostly. I was always looking extremely old at my young age. Some people looked at me as a married woman or a mama as some have mistakenly did.
It continued like that and I started praying. I fasted and prayed. I went to all the programs in the church but no husband was coming. My parents and friends were singing it to my ears, \”how old I had become\”. I wanted to be a leading career woman and a very good christain too holding leaderships in the church but all my dreams were crumbling in my very eyes.
While I was studying for my second degree in school at the age of 32, I continued my old dressing. Some lecturers referred to me as \”Madam\” and I had to tell them I was still a \”Sisi o\”. I never knew one lecturer had been looking at me.
After spending 2years in school, I dould still not boast of a man who had toasted or wooed me before either a believer or non-believer. I was just ignored and seen as out of date. I cried all night for an answer but i got none.
One day, our geography lecturer called for my attention and narrated how he had been watching me for years now and had picked interest in me. He was a 43years old man but was looking like he was in his 60s, so unkept and ugly(forgive me for that word). Though he wasnt looking nice but the minute he told me he wouldn\’t mind marrying me , I quickly went on my knees and said \”Yes sir\”, I would marry you. He was shocked at my response but I didnt care and in 2months we did all the necessary introductions and got married late that year. Now am 36, living with a man who looks like a stranger to me but am learning to love and appreciate me. I have an handsome son now and my husband has taught me to look nice while I taught him how to look young too*smiles*.
I was sharing my story with two ladies in my neighbourhood in school after seeing how they dressed shabbily to school. I called their attention and narrated my story to them.
Looking nice is very necessary. You need to look young and beautiful at all times. I must say I am a beautiful woman but I never knew it until I started looking nice in marriage.
Am not saying you should look artificial like most ladies do now but you can still look nice with a nice t-shirt or blouse on a flowered nice skirt or any colour. Men want their partner or ladies generally looking nice and attractive in a godly way.
If you dress like a whore like most ladies do now, you will be adressed by irresponsible men too. Get social, go for events, seminars, church programmes, go to places you can meet responsible and purposeful men not just any gathering.
I was never social. I didn\’t have friends and no one wanted to be friends with me.
Now my friends and family make jest of my my husband because of how he looks but who cares, he has made me a \”Mrs\” and has taught me to look nice too. Now I take my time to look beautiful before I go out and I have seen men turn their heads, that was something that didnt happen in my single years.
Singles out there, use your singleness to become productive and active too. Your youthfulness should be channelled to your usefulness. When you do innovative things and look nice too, men would come. Don\’t blame God for your situation. You just didn\’t make yourself available. I presented myself as a married woman even while single. Please look your youthful years, take care of your skin, body and look good.
Stay blessed.
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