#SinglesDate Online Monthly Seminar(October Edition) : \”Handling Third-party Temptations In Relationships\” By Folayemi Itunu

1.A very big thank you to @grace_festus for the wonderful tweets there. May God bless you more.#SinglesDate
2.To add to what @Grace_Festus has taught us today, will be sharing briefly on 1/2#SinglesDate
3. setting boundaries as a method of handling third party temptations in relationship #SinglesDate
4.What Are Boundaries? #SinglesDate
5.The easiest way to think about a boundary is a property line. #SinglesDate
6.We have all seen “No Trespassing” signs, which sends a clear message that if you violate that boundary, there will be a consequence. #SinglesDate
7.This type of boundary is easy to picture and understand because you can see the sign and the border it protects. #SinglesDate
8.Personal boundaries can be harder to define because the lines are invisible, can change, and are unique to each individual. #SinglesDate
9.Personal boundaries help you decide what types of communication, behavior, and interaction are acceptable. #SinglesDate
10. Types of Personal Boundaries #SinglesDate
11.#PhysicalBoundaries -it provides a barrier between you and an intruding force, like a Band-Aid protects a wound from bacteria. #SinglesDate
12.Physical boundaries include your body, sense of personal space, sexual orientation, and privacy.1/2
13. These boundaries are expressed through clothing, shelter, noise tolerance, verbal instruction, and body language. #SinglesDate
14. An example of physical boundary violation: a close talker.1/2
15.Your immediate and automatic reaction is to step back in order to reset your personal space. #SinglesDate
16. By doing this, you send a non-verbal message that when this person stands so close you feel an invasion of your personal space. #SinglesDate
17.Other examples of physical boundary invasions are: Inappropriate touching, such as unwanted sexual advances.1/2
18.Looking through others’ personal files and messages. Not allowing others their personal space. #EmotionalAndIntellectual #SinglesDate
19.These boundaries protect your sense of self-esteem and ability to separate your feelings from others’. #SinglesDate
20. When you have weak emotional boundaries, it’s like getting caught in the midst of a hurricane with no protection. #SinglesDate
21. You expose yourself to being greatly affected by others’ words, thoughts, and actions and end up feeling bruised, wounded, and battered. #SinglesDate
22.These include beliefs, behaviors, choices, sense of responsibility, and your ability to be intimate with others. #SinglesDate
23.Examples of emotional and intellectual boundary invasions are: #SinglesDate
24. Words are powerful, pet names like love, sweetheart are better between lovers #SinglesDate
24.Talking deep with someone who is suppose to be a friend #SinglesDate
25.Some reasons why we do NOT enforce or uphold our boundaries? #SinglesDate
26.FEAR of rejection and, ultimately, abandonment. #SinglesDate
27.FEAR of confrontation and GUILT. #SinglesDate
28. Awareness is the first step in establishing and enforcing your boundaries. #SinglesDate
29. Assess the current state of your boundaries, using the list below: #SinglesDate
30.HEALTHY BOUNDARIES allow you to: Have high self-esteem and self-respect,#SinglesDate
31.Share personal information gradually, in a mutually sharing and trusting relationship. #SinglesDate
32.Protect physical and emotional space from intrusion. #SinglesDate
33.Have an equal partnership where responsibility and power are shared. #SinglesDate
34.Be assertive. Confidently and truthfully say “yes” or “no” and be okay when others say “no” to you. #SinglesDate
35. Separate your needs, thoughts, feelings, and desires from others.1/2
36.Recognize that your boundaries and needs are different from others. #SinglesDate
37.Empower yourself to make healthy choices and take responsibility for yourself. #SinglesDate
38.UNHEALTHY BOUNDARIES are characterized by: #SinglesDate
39. Sharing too much too soon or, at the other end of the spectrum, closing yourself off and not expressing your need and wants. #SinglesDate
40. Feeling responsible for other people\’s happiness. #SinglesDate
41. Inability to say “no” for fear of rejection or abandonment. #SinglesDate
42.Weak sense of your own identity. You base how you feel about yourself on how others treat you. #SinglesDate
43.Disempowerment. You allow others to make decisions for you; consequently, you feel powerless and do not take responsibility for your own life. #SinglesDate
44.Tips for Setting Healthy Boundaries #SinglesDate
45.When you identify the need to set a boundary, do it clearly, calmly, firmly, respectfully, and in as few words as possible.
46. Do not justify, get angry, or apologize for the boundary you are setting. #SinglesDate
47.You are not responsible for the other person’s reaction to the boundary you are setting.
48.You are only responsible for communicating your boundary in a respectful manner.#SinglesDate
49.Some people, especially those accustomed to controlling, abusing, or manipulating you, might test you. Plan on it, expect it, but remain firm. #SinglesDate
50.Remember, your behavior must match the boundaries you are setting.1/2
51. You cannot successfully establish a clear boundary if you send mixed messages by apologizing. #SinglesDate
52.Learning to set healthy boundaries takes time. It is a process. Set them in your own time frame, not when someone else tells you.